It’s Just Difficult

I realize that when things go wrong (or they appear to), it is so much easier to stay in a bad mood.   You want to justify your mood and rant and rave about the injustice.  I get it; I have been there.  But here is a question:  do you stay mad because you want to or because it makes you feel good or you think you should?  Is your anger upsetting the situation or the person/people involved or just yourself and those around you?  Do you think others around you EXPECT you to be angry?   Ok several questions.  My point is, have you ever asked yourself truthfully why you get angry?

Usually anger is something learned.  We are born happy, jovial spiritual beings and we continue to be spiritual beings throughout our lives.  So why were we taught anger?  I suppose if we want to know what being “happy” means then we need to know what being “sad” means.   Something dies and we are sad….    or maybe we celebrate the life it had.  But we are creatures of opposites.  To know one thing, we need to understand the other; but we don’t have to live it!   We can choose to be happy or sad.   We can choose to be angry or not.  We can choose!

Next time you are angry about something, stop and ask yourself:  how is this anger benefiting me really?  Do you like to rant and rave because it makes you feel alive?  Or it makes you feel important?  Or maybe you feel that is what you are suppose to do.   What if someone told you that when another person does not behave the way you want them to (that is why you are getting angry – right?)  that you are suppose to smile?  Then you would be smiling right?   Well this is my point – well two points.

First, we are taught how to behave.   Now that you understand that, why not choose for yourself what you feel is right and beneficial to yourself?  As for me, I am NOT responsible for how others act and I refuse to allow their actions to control mine.

Second, we cannot control others so why do we get so mad when they don’t behave the way we want them too?   All of these are learned rules.  When was the last time you asked why?

All Rights Reserved Vallee Rose 2016

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Author: Enchanted Rose Intuitive Counseling

MA in psychology, PhD in Parapsychic Science, hypnotherapist and certified Spiritual Awakening Counselor here to help you move your energy blocks to have a totally awesome life!

3 thoughts on “It’s Just Difficult”

  1. Great post! Thanks for the reminder that we can choose our emotions bu choosing what we focus on. As for me, I will choose to focus on love for myself & others, & remembering to ask myself what is the most loving response in this situation?

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  2. When things go wrong, and they tend to do a lot recently, it’s so easy to fall into a bad mood, or a bed mood in my case. I could just spend whole weekends curled up in bed. Your post is a good reminder not to get stuck in self pity. Thanks!

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