Yesterday I mentioned intentions and beliefs. These are two very different concepts. We all have good intentions when we make resolutions or start projects etc. But how many times do those resolutions or projects fall by the wayside? Sometimes it is a good thing because we learn we really are not interested in what we were doing, but other times we find we are repeating the same pattern over and over again and nothing has been able to help us change. Why? One reason may be due to your beliefs.
What is a belief? A belief is something you learned was true. This does not mean it is true, but you were taught it was true by someone you trusted and therefore it became true for you. As children we learn from our parents, teachers, elders, society…. and they learned from their parents, teachers, elders, society…. But is that truth really the truth or just something that you believe to be the truth? Maybe you learned the rule that all children must respect their parents and be quiet growing up. You learned to be “invisible” in order to be rewarded by words such as, “You are such a good girl. Come here and have some cookies.” So, you also learned that good means cookies (sweets).
Where does this lead us? As you grow up, you may tend to reward yourself with sweets. Crazy? Think about it? How many times have you had something good happen and go get chocolate or purchase a donut? This may be more a “woman” thing that a “guy” thing but the idea is the same. Additionally, you were taught to be “invisible”. So any times that you begin to speak up at work or in a family situation, you may stop yourself and say internally, “I can’t do that; that is bad”. And therefore you may seldom advance in your career or give your opinion.
Now I am sure that many of you are saying, “No, that’s not me.” The issue is that these “truths” are in your cellular biology. You most likely do not even know that you are doing these things until you begin to truly take notice of your patterns and be mindful. Merely talking it out with someone usually does not get to the root of your issues You need to be aware of all you do and begin to delete it from your cells in an on-going fashion. If you are 20 years old, you have 20 years of beliefs to sift through. Likewise, if you are 40 years old, you now have 40 years of beliefs to sift through. But the end result is that you are happy: totally and completely happy which is your birth right.
The question remains: Are your cellular “truths” helping you or hindering you? So if you do not totally have the belief that you CAN be pretty, or you CAN keep a resolution you make, that you CAN have the life of your dreams…. you probably will fail once again repeating the same pattern and swearing that you will never do that again.
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